EI Skills include managing your
thoughts and emotions and bouncing back from negative
situations.
Raise your emotional intelligence by
becoming emotionally resilient
Letting Go, the
First Step Towards Clarity
By Crystal Jonas,
"Your Emotional Intelligence Coach"
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Boost emotional
intelligence by becoming aware of what you think about and how you
allow it to impact your emotions.
If you don't manage your emotions, but rather, put
your thinking on autopilot, your life will be reactive rather than
proactive.
EI skills serve you by strengthening your awareness of what you focus
on and how you allow it to effect your behavior.
Let go of negative
thoughts to release stress and bring more
energy into your life.
Before you focus on bringing more into
your life, you may be best served by first
letting go. Even if what you're focused
on achieving or acquiring it's good for you,
healthy, life affirming, and non-fattening.
There are only so many directions in which
we can focus our attention. While it's
true that given miraculous complexity of our
brains, our capacity for thought is virtually
limitless, it's also true that negative
thoughts consume valuable time and energy
that are better directed toward your goals.
Emotional intelligence has been shown
to be your #1 predictor in personal and professional success.
The more you improve your EI, the higher up the success ladder you go.
People with high EI take control of
their random thoughts when those thoughts do not support them.
How an Emotional Intelligence Coach
can help you
As an emotional intelligence coach, I
get to work with clients all over the United States. Inevitably,
we come to the point where the client wants to talk about how to
accomplish more of what really matters to them and to accomplish these
goals more quickly.
The EI clients I coach often wonder,
how is it others are able to achieve so much more when everyone has
the same amount of hours in a day.
Good point!
Think for a moment about how much of your
time is diverted focusing on thoughts that "make you" angry, sad, frustrated, fearful, or
hopeless. You may have never stopped to think
and calculate how much obsessive, negative
thoughts actually cost you just in terms of
minutes or hours of divergent thinking. You
could quite possibly be spending hours every
day obsessing over something that happened
years ago or perhaps you're worrying about
something that they never happen at all.
It's extremely hard to spend so much
mental effort replayed old tapes in your head
and later attempting to switch to positive
thoughts that the view towards your
objectives.
How to let go of negative thoughts
So how do you "let go?"
It's a lot easier to say it to do, of course
Be ready to replace your negative,
disempowering thoughts with vivid images of
some event that you really wants to happen
Without attaching emotions like guilt
regrets to the next exercise, spend a few
minutes dispassionately taking what it's
costing you to hold onto the old ideas that
fill your mind and divert your attention on a
regular basis.
A study on daydreaming revealed that we
are actually thinking about what we're doing
only about one-third of the time. The
rest of the time, we spend daydreaming.
This can be a fun, uplifting, creative, and
lucrative endeavor, if you are daydreaming
with a purpose.
Stop to think about that for a second, you
don't really ever plan to spend several
minutes, or even hours, in a day thinking
about someone or something that you don't
like, do you? That process just kind of
slips in, when you're not really paying
attention. Before you know it, you have
a head full of negativity, and an emotional,
and even physical change in response to your
mental energy.
How a Emotional Intelligence Coach can help you
As an emotional intelligence coach and life
coach, one of my main goals is to help my clients become aware of these slips
in focus, to have more powerful
thoughts and goals to replace once you've let
your old tapes go, and to have more energy
and positive results flow into your life as a
result of the process.
Raise your awareness to become quickly
cognizant of when you're slipping into the
old pattern you'd like to replace. You'll
catch yourself more and more frequently when
you're in negative moments.
A Life Coach can help you get rid of
bad habits
For over 12 years now, I've been a life coach,
helping people accomplish more in their personal and professional lives, from
building their emotional intelligence to building their own businesses.
No matter what we're going to accomplish, it's
important that we begin with letting go of mental clutter.
To do this, I lead clients through a mental
imagery followed by affirmations that support a more empowering self-image.
Our work includes the following tip:
Mentally dissolve, fade, or swipe
away the image of the negative thought.
You can also change your body in order to
change your mind set rapidly. Try
lifting your eyes up, walking tall, with your
shoulders back, or putting a smile on your
face. These all have been
scientifically proven to change a person's
state of mind. You may feel awkward at
first, but the results are worth your effort.
As a life coach, I advocate an uncluttered environment in order for
success to enter your life, and I also teach my clients how to let go of mind
clutter. Only once you have let go of
negative thoughts and the very real negative
energy that comes into your mind with them,
can you possibly hope to have the time and
energy to focus on what you really want to
happen.
© Crystal Jonas, "Your Emotional Intelligence Coach"
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